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The words we actually use.
Plain definitions, written without the clinical distance. 29 terms covering gender, attraction, and the language that grew up around both.
AFABAssigned female at birth — a fact about a birth certificate, not an identity.AgenderHaving no gender, rather than a gender that sits between others.AMABAssigned male at birth — a fact about a birth certificate, not an identity.AndrosexualAttraction to masculinity, whatever the person's gender.BigenderHaving two genders, either at once or in alternation.DeadnameThe name a trans person was given at birth and no longer uses.DemiboyPartly a boy or man, and partly something else.DemigirlPartly a girl or woman, and partly something else.EnbyA non-binary person — from saying the letters N.B. out loud.Gender euphoriaThe joy when your gender is seen correctly.GenderfluidA gender that shifts over time rather than staying fixed.GenderqueerA gender outside the binary — the older, more political word for it.GraysexualSomewhere between asexual and not — attraction that's rare or conditional.GynosexualAttraction to femininity, whatever the person's gender.MisgenderingReferring to someone as a gender that isn't theirs.NeopronounsPronouns beyond he, she and they.Non-binaryA gender that isn't exclusively man or woman.OmnisexualAttraction to people of all genders, where gender is noticed and matters.PassingBeing read as your gender without your trans history showing — and a contested goal.PolysexualAttraction to many genders, but not all of them.QueerplatonicA committed relationship that isn't romantic — and isn't just friendship either.Questioning your genderNot knowing yet, which is a legitimate place to be.SkoliosexualAttraction to trans and non-binary people — and a word many trans people reject.StealthLiving without people knowing you're trans.T4TTrans for trans — trans people seeking each other, on purpose.TransbianA trans woman who is a lesbian.TransfeminineMoving towards femininity from a male assignment at birth.TransmasculineMoving towards masculinity from a female assignment at birth.XenogenderA gender described through something other than manhood or womanhood.