What do I do if someone outed me?
Safety first, then limiting the spread, then support. You did nothing wrong.
Being outed means someone shared that you are trans without your consent. It can happen through gossip, a screenshot, an old photo or a dating profile shared outside the app. However it happened, the choice was taken from you, and that is not your fault.
First, your safety
If you are in danger at home, at work or in public, get somewhere safe and contact someone you trust. If you are threatened with violence, contact the police or an emergency service if that is safe for you, or a local LGBTQ+ organisation that can help you decide what to do.
Limit the spread
If it happened online, take screenshots of what was posted, with dates and usernames, before asking for it to be removed: you may need the evidence later. Then report it to the platform. Most platforms treat sharing someone's private information as a violation of their rules.
On a dating app, report the profile or conversation and block the person. On T4TSpace, reports go to a person and get a decision within 24 hours.
Reach the people who matter first
If the news is likely to reach your family, a workplace or a school, it can help to speak to the people who matter to you before the rumour does, on your own terms. You do not owe anyone a full explanation. 'Yes, I'm trans, and I would have liked to tell you myself' is enough.
Know your rights
In many countries, sharing information about someone's gender identity without consent can breach privacy or data protection law, and harassment at work or at school may fall under discrimination rules. A local LGBTQ+ legal service or advice centre can tell you what applies where you live.
Afterwards
Being outed can leave you angry, frightened or numb for a while. Talk to trans friends or a support group, and take the time you need. If it continues, what to do about harassment sets out the steps in order.