Demisexual flag

The asexual flag's colours, rearranged around a black chevron.

What the colours mean

Black Asexuality.
Grey Grey asexuality and demisexuality.
White Sexuality.
Purple Community.

What it shows

The demisexual flag uses the four colours of the asexual flag: a black triangle at the hoist, a wide white stripe, a thin purple stripe and a wide grey stripe. The shared colours signal that demisexuality sits on the asexual spectrum.

Where it comes from

It emerged from asexual online communities. Neither its designer nor the date it first appeared is reliably documented, so we give neither.

What demisexual means

Demisexual people usually experience sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional bond with someone. The glossary entry goes into how that differs from simply wanting to wait.

Dating as a demisexual person

Demisexual people often do better with slow starts: long conversations before meeting, and no pressure towards anything physical until a bond exists. Saying so early, in a profile or a first message, saves time on both sides, and anyone who treats it as a challenge to overcome is telling you something useful.

Questions people ask

What does the demisexual flag look like?

A black triangle on the left, with a wide white stripe, a thin purple stripe and a wide grey stripe.

Why does the demisexual flag use asexual colours?

Because demisexuality is part of the asexual spectrum, and the flag borrows the asexual flag's colours to say so.

In the glossary

Demisexual Asexual Greysexual (spelling)

Other pride flags

Transgender flagLight blue, pink and white, in a pattern that reads the same whichever way up you fly it.Rainbow pride flagThe first pride flag, designed in 1978, and still the one most people mean by the pride flag.Progress Pride flagThe rainbow flag with a chevron that brings people of colour and trans people to the front.Bisexual flagPink, purple and blue, with the purple where the other two overlap.Pansexual flagPink, yellow and blue: attraction regardless of gender, with a stripe for people outside the binary.Asexual flagBlack, grey, white and purple, chosen by the asexual community itself in 2010.Aromantic flagFive stripes from green to black, with green chosen as the opposite of romance's reds and pinks.Genderfluid flagFive stripes for a gender that moves: femininity, the absence of gender, the mix, all genders and masculinity.Agender flagSeven symmetrical stripes, with black and white for the absence of gender and green for non-binary genders.Genderqueer flagLavender, white and green: androgyny, agender identities and genders outside the binary.Intersex flagA yellow field and a purple circle, in colours chosen to be free of gender associations.Demiboy flagGreys, light blue and white: a partial connection to being a boy or a man.Demigirl flagGreys, pink and white: a partial connection to being a girl or a woman.